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nedjelja, 20. ožujka 2016.

Relationships: perks and how it works

Even if you confess your ‘eternal’ love for someone and they 

accept it, the hardest part of loving someone is knowing 

HOW to do that, in a way that you love them just right and 

don’t leave yourself behind in the process. Who is a good 
lover?
— Oshin Ahlawat




Lately I've found myself in a lot of conversations about love, commitment and romantic relationships.
We're all around our twenties, some almost there, some far up ahead, and it's intersting how people I know have diverse opinions about relationships and sharing emotions.

It's natural that each person has their own idea or somewhat of a plan for a near or even a distant future, and wether it includes a significant other or not. And we shape our viewpoints and ideas based on our own experiences.

For the longest I believed that there is no such thing as a full, one hundred percent honest relationship. Or a calm one, for that matter- I truly believed that it's normal for people to argue and fight on a regular basis.
Most of these I saw in my friends or heard about. As we were teens there was always some drama around. 
But it's been almost a year since G and I just clicked and I'm now fully convinced that a one-hundred percent honest relationship exists, and you really can have a best friend and a lover, all in one person. And the kind of relationship where you don't argue and can actually agree on things actually exists.


A relationship with no jelaousy or spite isn't just a concept.
What I wanted to write about for the longest was what I think are the basis for a relationship, and what is in my opinion a healthy relationship. I really don't want this to look like a' Cosmopolitan - 10 tips to make sure he's The One' kind of thing, just some things I've learned in the past year.


The first thing people often forget about is to question yourself if you are able to commit to someone. Are you able to be there for someone, no matter what? It's not as easy as it sounds. You have to give in order to receive, no relationship is one-sided. You compromise, you forgive, you take care of someone. If you're lucky enough that someone is willing to hand you their trust, you must know if you are capable of retaining that trust.

Secondly, there is no such thing as the 'first three months' period, where everything's great and then you start becoming yourself, and guys stop opening doors and girls start getting jelaous.
No. That's not real. Who you are on the first date is the same person you are on your 50th anniversary. I hate it when my girlfirends complain how guys started acting funny, and then said that it was expected, as you know, 'guys are always nicer at the beginning'. That's soooo wrong. If you or your significant other start showing other sides of yourselves after some time, that's simply lying and deceiving. That's something I maybe hate most, because it shows that there was no respect from the beginning.


And respect is maybe the most important thing there is in a relationship. It all starts with respect. You should respect and be respected enough so that you're not being lyed to (or be the one that's lying). That standds for jelaousy too. I love the proverb 'it takes two to tango' because it's so true for a lot of things. Jelaousy, for instance is something I believe very few people carry in themselves. I truly believe that almost no one is jelaous by nature, rather that it's something one person creates for the other. If a woman is jelaous, that means that her man is giving her reasons to be, and vice versa.
And if you don't believe someone enough that you have to check up on them, you should rethink your status. It's harsh, but someone you don't believe will stay faithfull on a nightout is not someone you should be on a long-term. Through time, that angst will slowly eat you out and make you miserable.

And when you've found that one person who you just click with and things are really good, there's still some work to do. Like any relationship, from business to friendship, even the romantic ones need constant work. It's just like that. You can never get lazy. Treat your other the same way you want to be treated. Like I said, no relationship is one-sided.


I just hate seeing people love eachother dearly and then it all falling apart because, after some time, it gets obvious that they just weren't right. It's heartbreaking when at first your insticts guide you through and it's so so beautiful, but as time goes, someone realizes that they're not ready or that it's just too much. And everyone should recognize that moment and know when it's time to leave. It's even worse to keep someone hurting, or even yourself. I always repeat the same line to all of my friends- if they love you they wouldn't want to hurt you. People are keen on hanging onto thing that we're once beautiful in hopes that it'll get better again, but everyone should be real to themselves. If deep down you know it's not going to be better, it's time to go.


Love yourself enough to know when it's time to let go, because hurting gets you nowhere.
I think the feeling of being madly in love never fades away. It's so beautiful. It makes you truly, hoenstly, want to make the other person happy. And when you do it's the best feeling in the world.

Staying true to yourself is so so important, but also not changing, being honest to yourself and respecting yourself and the significant other, too.

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ponedjeljak, 14. ožujka 2016.

It's not you, it's me. No, actually it is you.

Ending a friendship can sometimes seem like breaking up a romantic relationship. Someone's always the 'guilty' one and someone's always hurt. And that's fine, if you make a decision to remove someone from your like, that's okay. No one should spend time with someone that's suffocating them or adding preassure to their life.

But the bad part of that is the backlash. And why that happens is the thing that bothers me.

Why do women, girls, feel the need to put down others? To talk badly about other women, to spread lies, rumors about other women? Why spread hate?


In order to put themselves up? So they can get some sort of 'revenge'? How twisted is that?

I know most women gossip from time to time. The usual 'You'd never guess who I saw yesterday' or the 'She put on some weight recently', and that's okay. But making things up and presenting them as the truth is so, so wrong. And it makes me sad, that someone makes themselves feel better by putting someone else down. And not only that, but the fact that women do that to eachother.


It's a tough world if you're a girl, so why does someone else feel the need to make it even worse? It's women like that, who shamelessly and continously put effort in creating deceiving images about other women, that create the imbalance among girls and make things harder. Harder for evenyone, including themselves.

 Shouldn't a woman be there for another woman? Even if she doesn't know her, a girl should stand up for the other girl. And if she doesn't like the other girl, if she's mad, no woman has the right to create deceiving images of other women.

And I'm writting this from personal experience. I'm sad that someone who I once found dear feels the need to stomp on every good memory we had in order to prove something. And I don't even know what there is to prove? How terrible a person (in this case, me) is? If something's between you and another person, why should it even be bothersome to others?
And even if you are 100% sure that someone, your ex-friend, is just the worst, it's degrading to talk shit behind someone's back. That kind of person is just showing to others that he or she is capable of talking badly about his or hers friends.


Honestly, it makes me cringe. Someone you know turning into this monster, concentrating on what you do and where you go so they could create a bad image around you to people who don't even know you. People who don't even know you! Where's the point? It won't make you feel better. It won't make you look good or feel good simply because you're not doing good, but the exact opposite. It's bothering that such a petty act can make someone thrive of it.

Take care of yourself. Love yourself and the memories you have, don't destroy them. Don't make yourself feel empty. Every woman should be there for every other woman out there. Current friendships are important, but so are past friendships.



Every girl should keep that in mind. Respect others the same way your respect yourself.

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petak, 11. ožujka 2016.

Back at it again

How to start a post after a one year gap?
Not easy.

It's been a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences for the past year and a lot has changed. I haven't 'blogged' about any of it because I needed time to adjust myself, from new friends, new love to new surroundings.

I think it's best to just recap a few things because what I'm going to be writting about from now on is going to be a little different than before.

For starters, I got into collge, architecture, which was somewhat of a dream. And it's been tough. I'd even say it's kind of a love-hate relationship, where I adore what I do but it's just so challenging at times. But again, it's beautiful and I got to meet some great new people. College might be the number one reason I haven't been writting or posting pics. It's a whole new world and it's filled of responsibilities, chores, assignments...

But I missed this, a place of some kind of escape from reality, where this virtual reality lets me think about trivial things like trends and spaces for a bit.
A lot of people asked me about this blog and why I stopped and I always said I didn't fully stop and it was just a pause. And it was. WAS.


I won't be writting about things that happened in the past year,  although there would be a lot to write about in detail. So here's the short version (and some cute pics)-




The summer was great, we got to chill a lot after our final exams. I got to see Zurich with D and Venice, met some amazing new people while traveling. Then college started and I really really like it, even when there were sleepless nights and dozens of coffee mugs piling up on my desk, I can say it was worth it and still is.





New Year I spent on the lake Bled with my love G and some friends. It was a beatiful experience which also created a new chapter in my life called AirBNB. I'm probably the last person on Earth to discover it, but it opened a door to some new ideas on traveling.



And now it's 2016 and there are really big things going on. With college being a great part of my life now, most of my posts will probably, at some point, center on spaces and interiors or just things that put emphasys on creativity. Who read this blog before knows how much I love everything there is to be about clothes, styles and posting pics about what I wore, but there just isn't enough time for me to do some of those things anymore.

A project for college

So I'm back at this again, this therapy of mine, writting and posting pictures, with the same idea as before- what spikes my interest, I'll write about. If you like it- read it, or just scroll to see the pics. If not, doesn't matter.

Have a great weekend and I really can't wait to write some more. xx


pictures are in order from: Venice, Graz, Lošinj, Zurich, Rovinj, Bled and Zagreb

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srijeda, 15. travnja 2015.

Get to know the name

Few of you maybe remember my collabs from last year- both with photographer I.M., who got me in touch with his own clothing line, Crazy Lazy.
He's now working in Munich and promoting his brand, and it's getting more and more attention on a daily basis.

The brand breathes with easy, chill vibes and goes along with a casual attitude. The trio that's behind the brand works 24/7 on designing and promoting and they've gone pretty far- to read their interview click here. 
The thing is, people don't get how hard it is to start your own business. Started with few, now they have plenty- they expanded their lines even to kids (my faves, tbh). 
The bases of their lines are simple printed hoodies, Tees and beanies- the point is how you wear it and with what you combine it. 

  

 I love how in touch they are with people who buy their stuff- I think the point is to be approachable and these guys do it perfectly.
See the brand here, browse a bit, they put so much work into this it would be a shame to overpass it :)

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utorak, 14. travnja 2015.

Sweet tooth

I have always said that spring brings out the best of Zagreb. The cutest festivals are always taking place after Easter, and in that spirit, a pastries festival took place a week ago. 


Honestly, the amount of cakes and wine back there... It was just too much for me hahah I tried to stay humble and opted for mascarpone brownies with berries at the end (summer is like, a few days away), but there was just sooo many goodies I just wanted to taste.




I wish I went at the evening though, they had a massive pinata fest and there were a lot of wine stands so it could I guess that was fun. The decoration was cute, lots of pixie lights and balloons- super sweet. I love the whole pink thing, it sets you back a bit from all the everyday-dullness.
The whole thing took place in a park in the center, but I think it wasn't advertised much because very little people knew about it. That's the thing I hate about this kinds of happenings- people have no clue about what's going on around the city and everyone's bored at the same time. 





It was worth the calories tbh, I'd do it again any time. Next stop is the Street Food Festival that's coming soon. What's up with these food festivals lately, like no, I don't want to see and eat awesome food just a month before the beach season hits me. 

Anyway, keep up for more foodie fests and my more of my random rants. I'm working on several posts at the same time right now, so it's gonna be a busy month, xx

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srijeda, 8. travnja 2015.

Denim dreams

So I really really like this denim comeback that's been going on lately (except the coveralls though- too much cotton-eyed Joe going on there). 
This photo set could also be called - "The head scratcher" or "Trying to pose on a windy day", my hair just couldn't be tamed!
Beside the weather, I've been having some bad hair days- don't know why tbh. That day, when we were taking the pics, I just had the worst feeling about it, hence you can see me trying to cover it on literally every pic. I've been trying out some John Freida masks, I even made the avocado mask but nothing seems to do the trick. I guess it's the stress and this hella weird weather.
The denim skirt is something I was trying to get my hands on for ages- and guess where I found it. Zara, duhh. Not a wild guess I suppose since lately it seems like I'm constantly fully clothed in their pieces. The problem is I buy everyday pieces in Zagreb (read- Zara) and for every other occasion I get stuff online but it's so hard to pose around Zagreb in stilettos and racy dresses these days haha

 Anyway, this is a cute combo I had the other day- we went shopping and just had the most chilled day. 



 wearing Zara skirt and jacket, Pandora bracelet, H&M bracelet, Public Desire shoes, Michael Kors sunnies

It's a short post again, but I promise to make a few longer ones this week, xx

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srijeda, 18. ožujka 2015.

Back in action

I'll start with a BIG sorry for not writing in ages, but things are getting better in school and everything so I'm picking up where I left. Without further ado here's what's new-

Since Spring is coming, there'll be (I hope) more outfit posts. Winter depressed the sh** out of me and I was in no state of mind to do anything, from writing to shooting.
I'm making huge plans for Summer. I know it's far far away but it'll be the longest I'll have in a couple of next years so I gotta take advantage of what's coming.
New clothes, new ideas, lots of new stuff are coming to my mind and with more time on my hands I'll be hyper productive around here.

This post is actually a OOTD one; my new shoes from Public Desire came few days ago and I'm obsessed. The combo was a bit improvised but inspired by a cute bouquet of flowers I bought the other day. So check it out and don't forget to like, share or comment :)







wearing Zara knit and jeans, Public Desire shoes, LiuJo bag, Michael Kors sunnies, Pandora and Thomas Sabo jewellry

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srijeda, 28. siječnja 2015.

BLΔCK


A quick ootd shoot- fitted in the one hour gap between school and sketching lessons. 
I call this kinds of clothes 'work clothes' and 'work outfits' because I get dressed around 7 AM and get to change at 10 PM, so it has to get as comfy as it can.. And what's better than a big sweater, right?



hat, sweater, pants, boots Zara, Michael Kors watch, Thomas Sabo bracelet

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srijeda, 31. prosinca 2014.

Best and last of 2014

It's been a tough year- such a cliche to start a post. But still, it has been. It's been wild; from adventures to ultimate boredom, from new friendships to 'friendship-over's, new loves and new beginnings. And last couple of months have been hard and there are a couple of even tougher ahead, which causes and will cause a lack of my blog activity, and it's tough for me (cause this blog has served as a vent for the last couple of months).
Nevertheless, it's time to say goodbye with a little 'best of' list I've come up with in between cleaning and baking cookies-

 Best new clothing item:
Tough one to start with. Trends are going wild and it's such a variety to choose from. Santa bought me a lot, but I'll have to settle with a Sheinside sequin shirt that came in recently (posted in last post). The top was in a tough tie with my new black boots but they'll get their own post next week.
For those who read the blog more often you've probably noticed my obsession with a certain camel coat (sigh), but since I've covered it so much it's time to give a chance to other items.

 Best dressed person:
There's room for just one fashion queen in my heart- RiRi. Pictures say a thousand words...





Best moment of 2014:
So much has happened and I've been to so many places... But from all the going outs and partying and festivals, the short business-shopping trip to Munich is my fave. Just me and Mum and the city for a few days. Pure bliss.

Best post:
There are two categories; most viewed (best according to the viewers) and my favorite.
It's interesting that most viewed was Playful (pre hair-dye era) and my fave is Its coat story part-2. I guess Playful got that much because it was among the first for me to post on Facebook so it was new to everyone. But for me, in Part2 I had my fave outfit and it's most...me and my style. 

 Best to watch, read and listen to:
No point choosing the best movie, but I've recently began watching Entourage again and I'll settle it for best along with True Detective.
As for books, people really like different genre. Since Kindle, I've read so many books, but last few weeks I've been reading The Passage by Justin Cronin, something a friend recommended and all I have is awe. It's amazing, fiction genre but even if you don't like it go for a try because it's weighed on characters and not so much on fiction.
As for music, that changes a lot- like with most people it depends on the mood. Here's my recent faves, so give it a try-

 Neon Trees - Sleeping With a Friend
Jhen Aiko - W.A.Y.S.
Sia - Elastic Hearts

 Best to eat at:
Since school started I've had less chance to eat out or to even post about, but if it came to just one I'll opt for Mundoaka I've written about in Foodie Obsession. 

 I could pick out best from all sorts of categories for hours now, but it's almost 6 pm and it's time to start getting dressed for the NYE party.

I wish you all the best for new year, may your resolutions come true, your looks get better than ever and see you all in 2015 ;)


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četvrtak, 25. prosinca 2014.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Like the jingle goes "this the season to be jolly...", and jolly it has been so far. With my nerves on the verge of exploding I've anticipated this winter break like never before. I hoped there'd be time for resting but there has been anything but such haha
Still I must admit, it's been fun doing Santa shopping and baking cookies for the fam; there was actually a LOT of baking- I think we broke the record this year with 10 different kinds of pastries baked in two days, and still counting...
Along with Santa, DHL surprised me in the nicest way- I ordered some dresses and such for New Years eve and to wear these days, but due to the busy season it wasn't expected until January, and it came yesterday -could you imagine the happiness. Like I've bought and surprised myself hahah

Anyway, here's a big happy Christmas from me and my little bro with a pic from yesterday's ballet- it's a tradition to see the Nutcracker every season. We're travelling tomorrow for a quick spa-getaway and hope I'll be able to write more these days!
Enjoy your holidays, spend time with your family and friends and don't forget to be thankful for what you have and give to those who don't! :)

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nedjelja, 14. prosinca 2014.

Travel diaries: Salzburg

Do you ever wish to just escape reality and chill for a day, far from home and responsibilities?
Few weeks ago my friend M and I made a random decision to go on an one-day trip to Salzburg to see the advent fair. The whole charm to it was the spontaneity. 
For 24 hours we were able to forget all about school and problems, it was just us and the trip. Our first stop was Hellbrunn castle; a former summer house for the royalty. When I was a kid we used to go there in Easter, and I remember that the castle had a garden some prince once designed as a prank park- with gorgeous statues and murals that would spray water on its viewers. I remember there was a great big table with stone seats and when I sat on it the chair sprayed me and water started bursting from the top of the table. The guy had class even 300 years ago haha. The water park was closed cause it was cold, but we still got some time to stroll and visit the stands.







Later we continued to Salzburg. Imagine a city of 150 000 citizens with 200 000 tourists. Yep. Crowded is a euphemism in this case. Nevertheless, we got so see some cool, festive things.
They got stands to match their crowds; it's impossible to get through them all. 




I'm not that into the whole commercial stuff, but I gotta admit they outdone themselves in decor. Firstly, the architecture itself is too cute, and they have this law that stores must have metal signs like centuries ago, so you're walking through narrow streets full on signs, holly, lights and ribbons. 



And while my friend had a mission to shop till drop, the nerdy side of me was drooling over the architecture. But seriously. It's all very old and pittoresque, the facades are all in different colors and styles. Imagine it with all the lights- seems surreal.









If you're ever going to Salz, there's a place you need to see. It's a shop where you can buy hand painted real eggs. There are hundreds of thousands of them and each piece is a small piece of art (matches the price). I was sooo obsessing over little black Balmain eggs (that's how I called them). I didn't buy them though, they wouldn't go with our decor at home. 
Every egg is practically unique and it takes you so much time to pick out the best.





It was cool and tiresome- we walked for 8 hours straight. But the weather was nice and not as cold as we were expecting. We were so bundled up with sweaters and coats and hot during the day, but it got pretty chilly when the Sun went down- so keep that in mind if you're ever going there.




Wearing Zara coat, pants and knitted sweater, Guess bag, Buffalo shoes and vintage hat.

It was so so nice to escape reality for a moment and just chill. We strolled, had coffee, ate pastries and just enjoyed ourselves. It was a laugh and I'd do it again anytime. Visit Salz, be prepared for rows of tourists and don't forget to eat some Sacher cake :)
Will write soon, xx

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